My ex-husband-to-be (I'm assuming that's what you call an estranged spouse that has filed for a divorce), his family, and friends,
Thank you all for granting me your audience. Now, that I have your attention where should I begin. Hmmm... Let's start with "Mrs. Logan-Ajiboye, thank you for meeting with me and trusting me to handle your case. In order to retain my services you will be billed $4,000 as retainer which will be held in a separate account. Although, we believe that your case could run as high as $8,000 due to the complexities of motion and wants of spouse"
Yes you read correctly, I will be billed $4000-$8000 to retain a lawyer all because I would much rather not be a doormat and roll over and settle for the options my spouse is giving me. So why did I pen this letter to you all? Well, as the father of my child and once the love of my life I'm sure you realize how ludicrous this is; we are investing 8,000 each (~16,000) into other people's pockets for their business and for their family so that there child could go to college. Instead of communicating like mature adults, creating a plan through some sort of mediation once everything has cooled off, we both could maintain our money and put it towards raising our son and ensuring that he has all his hearts desires. To continue, the amount of money I make for work is 3 times less that of your salary. Where will this money come from? Who advised you that this was the best way to resolve our family situation was to tear us apart further.
As his family or friends it is your job to ensure that your friend is reflective and thinks about his decision and the implication. The goal is to be apart of our sons life and throwing money at lawyers to have them showdown will not necessarily break about
Thanks again.
Today, after meeting with my lawyer and discussing my retainer. I felt overwhelmed, distraught, frustrated... How did things get so bad ? Where will this money come from? I have plans for my money! I worked so hard to save. This is not the best use of my money.
I wish we could resolve this situation better but there is no other way.
Divorce sucks!
On the plus side, little man officially crawled on all fours and is no longer scooting like an inch worm. This all occurred on my birthday 3.14.16 and I couldn't ask for a better birthday gift.
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