Short Hair Don't Care

Yup, I did it! Chopped it off.  Who gon check me?!?!?! LOL I feel all tough actually I feel really EMPOWERED by my natural hair.  I have been awaiting this moment since freshman year.

Time for some HairStory...

My first transition November 2008

First transition

Once upon a time there was a fair brown maiden who immigrated from the beautiful land of wood and water Jamaica when she was ten.  She was natural all her life and most of the people arouns her was also natural.  Coming to this new environment, she was greeted with straight hair everywhere she went.  Nonetheless she never gave in and rocked her braids, cornrows, and beads to school.  Then, one day I suppose her hair was looking rather unkempt and a substitute teacher brought this to her attention in front of herself and her peers.  She decided to start pressing her beautiful mane in 8th grade since it seemed more acceptable.  By March of her freshman year, she got so fed up with the hotcomb and decided to get a relaxer. In the beginning her hair was thriving with the relaxer, it was thick , luscious, and shiny.  Tragedy struck! Her hair started thinning, breaking, and getting shorter.  Somehow, she stumbled upon a video by someone by the name of lovelyti2001 who had really long hair from stretching relaxers and transitioning.  She started this tranisition process November 2008, her freshman year.  LOL (random thought just popped into my head: So,  I had no shame and would go to the caf with my hair deep conditioning in a shower cap under a bandana all the time to the cafeteria.) I diverge...but transitioning became too much and in the summer of 2009 she relaxed again.  She relaxed once again and set her mind up that she would transition again and follow through.

Snipping away March 2011

All my hair after I was done cutting

Now to the main point of the blog.  I was always afraid of short hair.  I had hair idols and I wanted to show my natural hair when it would hang naturally to my shoulder at least.  I wanted to transition for a long time.  I refused to let anyone see me with hair shorter than neck length. How unrealistic? So how did I chop it off?  I got my lovely hair straightened at the dominicanos and boy was it long and bouncy...yup it had me feeling myself.   I decided to cut it the day of the Carnival on The Quad event that CSO put on.  My hair was all sweat out and all you saw was roots and mangy ends hanging from it.   I couldn't stand it much longer so before I could consult anyone and change my mind.  I just started chopping and with each snip I felt so much better, more liberated.

Earrings and Puff, oh and the bathroom

Side twists with the fro

This post was just to show off how beautiful it is to rock a TA (tiny afro).  Here are the three key ingredients: panty house, earrings, and conditioner.  Panty house...yea I said it, all your ripped pany house will come in handy here.  Take the panty house cut it up in small pieces.  It will be your new ponytail/afro holder and headband.  I mostly use it as a headband but sometimes I want to make my puff look like a ponytail then use two.  One as a pony tail and one has a headband.   Now, I am not a big fan of earrings...idk why.  But earrings, accentuates your face as your hair is pulled up on your head.  It is just a great accessory that adds a BIG difference to that afro puff.  Conditioner and I are in a relationship, I swear.  I never loved a hair product more than conditioner.  Words cannot begin to describe it.  It softens and moisturizzes your hair especially hello hydration by Herbal Essences, BEST Product hands down!! I use conditioner to wash (co-wash), to detangle, as a leave-in, and as a styler.  Its a multi-use product.

Drama-Free

As long as I can remember I have always been in the middle of some drama or another.  No matter how much I try to avoid them, my name is thrown about here and there.  I am beginning to feel like I should live in solitude on a small island.

This will I guess in essence be  a semi-rant. UGGGGHHHHH!!!!!

So last night I got an email from someone who mind you is not my friend, someone I would consider and acquaintance as in we only have one thing in common and that is the reason for our relationship or lack of it.  Anyway,  this person sends an email through what I would consider an inappropriate medium stating that she feels back-stabbed by me. Now, I am here pondering how can I back-stab someone who I am not even friends with like she made it perfectly clear last week that she and I did not have a "personal relationship". Then she rants on in the email about me tarnishing her good name by talking about her behind her back.  PAUSE! STOP THE PRESS! Hands up if you are that saint that doesn't talk about someone behind their back. Oh! Okay, I thought so. We all talk behind each other's back good or bad whether we mean to or not.  it happens...such is life. Move on, talk about me behind my back, ask if i care.  So, with that being said it just annoyed be that she was upset that I talk about her when she called a friend who reported back to me that she was talking about me.

One thing I have come to realize is that the same people I hug and say hi to will talk about me so why get upset.
Anywho the drama continues...she bashes me in a speech, bashes me on facebook, and on twitter.  Have I attacked? Nope! So, I thought it was funny when she said I was immature and that she didn't want to get on my level.  Witch please...but it's all over.  I deleted her from my FB which means I deleted her from my life.

Change is the ONLY constant

Hi My name is Sara-Kay Logan and I am afraid of change...I mean I was afraid of change. *Cue AA voice "Hi Sara-Kay*

About two years ago maybe a little less, I would have these breakdowns (no, I'm not crazy...let me explain). I believe it's part of the whole adolescence, teenager, and hormones stuff but at the time I didn't realize that.  Every couple of months I would notice that I was changing.  To me, this change would  come at the most inopportune times.  It would come at the point when I would just be coming to terms with the myself from the previous shift in my behavior.   For me, at those times it felt like a rug was being pulled from under me and I was in a mirror face to face with a new person.

This revelation would have me so distraught. I liked the old me why did I have to change? What was changing me? I would cry because I felt like I had no control.

What is the definition of change?

Change 

[cheynj]

–verb (used without object)

to become different: 

to become altered or modified:

to become transformed or converted (usually followed by into

Let's forward to now...the WOMAN I am now.

Change is inevitable...ironically it is the only constant.  There is always a need for shift, transformation, and to improve.  Yet, as individuals it something that many of us fear even though it is the best thing for us.  Obama used it in his tag line "A Time For A Change" 

Near the end of last year and into this year, I began to reevaluate myself and I also had someone motivating me to do that... shout out to that special someone ;).  A change was in order...I began to realize the way people viewed me and the way I wanted them to see me.   I wanted to seek the face of the Lord more and in doing so I need to change my lifestyle to one that was conducive to such living.  Furthermore, I wanted to be taken more seriously, to be seen as a woman, a classy sophisticated woman instead of a loud teenager.  

Steps to deal with change or to make a change:

1. Write Goals: What are the things you want to do? What do you want to change?  Write them down or make a mental note.  Stick to them, yes you will mess up.  But, having a direction will make it easier to change those things. See example below of my mental list:

• Carry oneself in a more lady-like manner
• Dress appropriately; not too much cleavage, eliminate sweatpants, throw away the minis
• Think through every decision or action made...do not be impulsive or illogical
• Tone down my temper

2. Surround oneself around people who will help to facilitate change or who you aspire to be like:  Why? It is pointless to be around others who are not of the same mindset as you.  For example, if you wanted to stop smoking cigarettes it would be nonsensical to be around fellow smokers.  It will cause a relapse or a pressure to do the same.  Furthermore, you will be characterized as those same people who smoke.  It is better to surround yourself amongst people who you admire because those healthy traits will eventually rub off on you.

3. Build a Routine: Habits are made based on a pattern so create a new one! and TRY to stick to it!

4. Understand that there is alot of work that comes along with:  Yes, it's a given but as pattern-making beings we may begin to lose hope when one constantly makes the same mistake.  Recognize what you did wrong, try to figure out how you messed up and how you can fix it. Don't dwell on it or persecute yourself. Habits can be broken if you want to. 

5. Stay  positive:  Focus on the baby steps that you are taking and the minor goals that you have accomplished.  It will make you feel more confident and secure that you are on the right track. Go you! Go you! lol Example: I have a terrible habit of throwing my things around and then it takes me 15 mins. of scouring my room to find where I put the thing.  I haven't misplaced my ID in a couple of months.  This is grounds for celebration.  Celebrate the changes and keep a positive outlook.

Change should be seen as a growth. A conscious effort to be better.  Finally, I have finally been able to master change and even engineer my transformation into the person I see ten years from now. I have learnt that not only is it easier to welcome it than fight it but it is you realizing your true potential.   Change,Yes, you will leave people behind because once you start to change people you are friends with may not gel with that change.  I'm not even going to front, once you see that you are making the changes you desired, it even puts a pep in your step. 

Look out for my blog post on change in a relationship and whether is good or bad.

Welcome to MY world

So, I have always loved reading other's peoples blogs but I never had the balls to actually start my own.  Why now?  Well, lately I have had so much going on in my thick innocent skull so I decided to blog about it all.  Most of my blogs will about my experiences and how they are shaping me as I evolve.  It will be about my natural hair journey, spirituality, school/academics, relationship, day to day randoms, politics, the Caribbean, and everything else.


Who am I?

1/6/2011 New Year, New Me

My Name is Sara-Kay and if my image in the beginning did not give it away I am Jamaican, born and raised.  I am one f the most sociable person but  I'm really quiet. Making people happy is my game and that alone makes me happy.  I am in my third year of undergrad at Northeastern University studying criminal justice and human service.  I am aspiring lawyer and superman (yes plan and will change the world). love cultures, traveling is one of my favorite things to do....there is just something about taking off and landing that does it for me.  Meeting new people is the reason why I breathe especially those from other backgrounds and culture...the exotic-ness that comes with a different language, outlook, and life experience.


This blog will give you an insider on my brain and help me as I further the discovery of my self. It will chronicle my journey that life takes me on and the plan God has for me.  (way to repeat myself....you all get the point)

Welcome to me, take a leap of faith into the Oasis of my mind!